Enough With Excuses

I just got reading an inspiring post fromScreen_Shot_2013-05-23_at_4.33.02_PM Laura LaVoie of Life in 120 Square Feet (you should read it to get an idea about this post).  I thought I’d respond to it in a way and maybe expand upon it from my viewpoint.  It basically sums up so much of what I believe when it comes to tiny houses, a career and life.  It is easy to make excuses for not doing something, to follow the path of least resistance, to settle into complacency, but to our own detriment.  Even today I do this, but I am now more cognizant of it and call myself out on it.

The point is when it comes to making drastic changes, whether building a tiny house, making a career change or some other life altering decision, IT IS HARD.  More acculturate, it is REALLY FREAKING HARD and by hard I mean lots of sleepless nights, tons of work, years of making your way to the goal; The saying  “blood, sweat, and tears” only begins to cover a rough approximation of it.

Right before I started building my tiny house I realized that the only thing that was stopping me from building my tiny house was myself.  I had no idea where I’d live in it, I had no idea how to build, I didn’t know how it would all go down, but I went for it.  When I started, I didn’t know about how the building codes and zoning would work, how I’d get utilities, where I was going to park it, but I decided that I needed to move to action now, because otherwise me saying “someday” would turn into never.

recite-3412-388918378-1iym69What I realized about the changes in my life, career and my housing options was that no matter how scary it would be to change these things, the price of doing nothing was too high.  Living in house loaded with debt, working in a job I hate and in a life left uninspired was not worth it.  To make the changes I have made – and am still making – was the only rational option.

The truth is when I started this journey I was unemployed, loaded with debt, didn’t have any money in the bank or any assets.  Since doubling down on me and my life, I own my tiny house, I should be able to clear all my debt in the next year, I have a job I love done on my terms and I have money in the bank.  What I did was nothing special, the concepts and ideas are already out there for free, you just have to stop making excuses and say “I am the priority and worthy of an epic life”.

So today resolve to make you and your life the priority, to make your life epic.  Realize it is a ton of work, it’s scary, it will take years and after laying all the excuses to rest, you will have a life others only dream of.

Your Turn!

  • What did you do today to achieve your dreams?
  • What excuse have you left behind?
  1. Love this, Ryan.

    I thought you might like this well known quote:

    “There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of the universe that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” — Marianne Williamson

    Just like your blog, Laura’s blog and many others. You’re inspiring people everyday and you might not even know it. Thanks Ryan!

  2. Inspiring post! Thanks for sharing. I am curious though how did you stay motivated though it all? How did you stay connected without giving in to giving up?


    • For me it was surrounding myself with others that were doing it. Reading blogs, listening to podcasts, and envisioning what could be. It wasn’t hard to stay with it when the stakes of not doing anything were so high.

      • Brilliantly stated, “it wasn’t hard to stay with it when the stakes of not doing anything were so high.” Agree 100%! Thanks for sharing!

  3. Hi Ryan,

    First time commenting, but long time reading. I actually came across the tiny house community almost nine months to the day, and on April 18th of this year started building my own tiny house. I am in that stage right now where everything on the outside is about done, and most of the side–but I am working on the last couple of things (like a kitchen counter and an interior wall) before I officially move in next week.

    I wanted to say that coming from the perspective of being on the home stretch so-to-speak, I am totally in that place where the doubts are creeping in and I am looking at everyone else’s projects thinking “I’m not as good as so and so” or “I really should have just hired someone to build this”. So I decided that it was time to actively participate in the community, and surround myself with like-minded people, rather than just sitting quietly on the sidelines reading your blog, Laura’s blog, Ella’s blog, and everyone in between’s blog–and this encouraging post seemed a good introduction.

    (My blog is: https://underatinyhouseroof.wordpress.com/—all the cool kids have one!)

    So, to answer your question: what I am doing today to achieve my dreams? Going out and building a kitchen counter space in my tiny house kitchen! 🙂

    • Hey Molly!

      It sounds like we are in the same spot! Here’s the truth. There will always be someone who is better at it than you and that is okay. Focus on you. Your house looks great! Just yesterday I was fretting over a small gap in the window casing I just installed. Every tiny house has its mistakes and imperfections, their owner/builders could rattle off a long list. Don’t worry, realize its all a journey and a learning process. Good luck and keep on trucking!

  4. I haven’t saved up enough money to build my tiny house yet but to me that’s a reason, not an excuse. It doesn’t stop me doing a lot of other things that ultimately aid the project. Plus collecting useful supplies and honing skills. As frustrating as the delay is (one more year ought to do it!) it also allows me to refine the plans and work on models. As soon as there’s enough money saved to get a weather tight shell the project is a go and the finishing touches will get done as time and money allow.

    Several things on the grand plan list are ticked off – the land is paid for, debts are eliminated and I’m doing any kind of prep work that doesn’t cost money, plus a few cheaper projects like building stairs down from the road to my build site. It isn’t as satisfying as getting the tiny house built but it all needs doing. Next phase will be working out the “final” design, actual building plans and material lists. One slow step at a time but always moving in the intended direction.

  5. Read your post and some of the previous entries, and I must say that it got me thinking… especially the line “Living in house loaded with debt, working in a job I hate and in a life left uninspired was not worth it.” – that really hit close to home.

    I recently found out about tiny living through some news articles, so still not sure if it’s for me or not, but it does sound appealing. I’m Nearing the big 40, working in a career field that I despise because it pays the bills, and have no real sense of purpose cause I’m stuck in that complacency mode has got me thinking about what to do to change things for the better.

    For the past couple months I’ve really wanted to load up my truck with only the important things and leave everything behind ( I do have a girlfriend, but that relationship is drawing to a close so soon it’ll just be me again). I guess selling things bit-by-bit and investing in a tiny house on a trailer so that I could turtle around the country finding myself would be the better way to go about that…

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