Minimalism & Relationships

Minimalism entails so much more than just decluttering – and applying minimalism to your relationships can be one of the most rewarding aspects of the simple life. Before minimalism, I had a ton of friends, but these were mostly surface-level friendships. I had the kind of friends that you go out for hikes or happy hour with – not the kind of situations which inspired discussions on life changing topics like minimalism. Now, I have a few close friends; these people know everything about me, and we have similar values in life.

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Here is how I created relationships that became inspiring, honest, and meaningful:

1. Be Intentional

I used to forge friendships based on things like proximity – I would become good friends with coworkers, neighbors, and spend a lot of time with the people I lived with. Soon after turning to minimalism, I started to feel a bit alienated. None of my friends had the same values as me. Sure, we had things in common like work or mutual friends, but I didn’t feel like these people truly understood why I did the things that I did. Finding friends that have similar values to you will give you stronger feelings of connectedness and help you feel less alienated.

2. Don’t Be Scared of The Internet

I have no shame in saying that I’ve met many of my really good friends through the internet. Social media is a powerful thing, and there is no harm in joining Facebook groups that interest you or reaching out to someone who inspires you. I’ve met many a friend via the internet and am so happy that I did. I like to reach out to people in the same general area as me, and create a time to meet up. The internet is a magical place!minimalism relationships

3. Be Picky

Friendships can be a beautiful thing. But they can also be a disaster. I am very aware of the energy that people give off, and if it’s not a happy, positive energy, I try to keep my distance. It’s good to have friends that have the same values as you, but I like to surround myself with people who inspire and motivate me (extra points if they can make me laugh regularly).

Creating relationships that inspire and motivate us not only makes our lives more meaningful; but they help us to become the best version of ourselves. Jim Rohn, a motivational speaker, famously said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” By creating deliberate and meaningful relationships, I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my life. I am inspired and awed by my friends daily.

Your Turn!

  • How will you start to create more intentional relationships?



  1. I’m not a very sociable person, so it hadn’t occurred to me that one would have to be minimalistic in their social life!

  2. Quality is better than quantity. It not applies to things but also to friends.

  3. I loved this article…really well done!

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