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What Will You Trade For A Day Of Your Life?

The other night my good friend Macy Miller from Minimotives.com posted a quote that really made me stop and think real hard.  Here it is…

What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.

The quote struck me hard because on that day, while I did get some stuff done for this website, I was largely not doing anything productive or intersting.  Now there are times where not doing anything is exactly what you need, so in its essence, it has value because it is restorative or therapeutic.  However this day was not one of those days.  I read this quote and felt that today was a day not used well.

So I took some time and thought on this concept.

  • What is valuable enough in my life that I would exchange a part of my life for it?
  • Who are the people that are valuable enough in my life to spend it with?
  • If something isn’t worth this gift of a day, then what should instead replace it with?

Think about this for a moment.  Really think about it.

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To get an idea of how much we don’t consider this factor in our lives, consider this.  Assuming a person was to live to the age of 80 (national average life expectancy is 78.6 in the USA), the average American spends:

  • 10 years at work
  • 13 years watching TV
  • 2.7 years commuting
  • 2.5 year shopping
  • Total: 28.2 years

When you consider this question: what is valuable enough to give a day of your life?  Then consider the fact that we spend a large part of our life doing these things listed.  Is it worth it?

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Now we obviously need to balance some of these things with reality.  To some degree we need to work to support ourselves, but if we were in a Tiny House, then how much could we cut down or do that job that we always wanted to, but it didn’t pay enough.  We need to eat, so some shopping is inevitable.

The time we spend watching TV is what really got me.  I don’t have cable, but I do like to watch some shows online through streaming.  My gut reaction was to stop watching some of the shows, but I think there too, there are some shows that are compelling and creative enough that in moderation, they can be beneficial for your imagination, relaxation time etc.

So today ask yourself what is worth giving a part of your life for, you might be surprised how your priorities change or reaffirm.

Loyd Khan’s Book On Simple Shelters

Today we have a really interesting video of Loyd Kahn, who starts talking about the book he is working on, then starts talking about Tiny Houses in general, key players, the movement etc.  It is a very interesting video and one quote sticks out for me:

 

Regrets Of The Dying

This orignailly was linked to by Tammy over at Rowdy Kittens the story is a reprint from Inspiration and Chai

The article was written by a palliative care nurse who spent years working with people in their final days of their life.  The article struck me strongly and simply had to share.   The nurse  shares the most common regrets at the end of people’s lives as she help them make peace with their own mortality.

I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.  It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice.  They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.  When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life.

Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

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