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Minimalist Mindset: Is It Bad To Love Things?

If your house was on fire, what would you grab before running out of it? Anything? Everything? Becoming a minimalist has made me look at my relationship with things completely differently. I used to be able to list off the things I would grab: my laptop, external hard drive that houses my photos, my phone, etc. Now I wonder: why are these things so important? Is it bad that I feel like I need these things? Is it bad to love things?

Is It Bad To Love Things? Minimalist Mindset

1. Being unattached to items makes life flexible

I used to have a closet full of clothes. I had so many things that I cared deeply about, including designer handbags, shoes, jackets, and my shelf of very-carefully collected jeans that all fit perfectly. I had a fancy headboard on my bed and I had the perfect collection of throw pillows that I’d spent months accumulating. I loved these things. I was proud of this home that I’d made. Then my life changed. My relationship ended, and I had to move out, pronto. I had to leave a lot of things behind, and I was genuinely upset that I felt like I was leaving my life at that house.

2. Home Is Not Where The Stuff Is

Minimalist Mindset: Is It Bad To Love Things?After moving out, I started to minimize my belongings further. I didn’t want my life to be focused on things any more. It’s nice to have things you like, but being upset about replaceable things felt completely ridiculous to me. I didn’t want “home” to be a place with my throw pillows and fancy headboard – I wanted “home” to be my favorite people, a feeling of comfort, something inside of me.

3. Your Stuff Does Not Define You

Using things as just that – things – has created a massive shift in my life. I don’t need a wall full of jeans anymore, I just need one pair. One. I just need a few shirts. I prefer to buy clothes that I am comfortable in and wear often. But the brand, the designer, or the popularity of the clothes that I’m wearing doesn’t matter to me anymore. I am not defined by the clothes I’m wearing – and I want people around me to see me for me, not for my clothes. I want people to see how kind I am, how caring I am, what I’m passionate about; not the label on my clothes or whether I have the trendiest bag.

Minimalist Mindset: Is It Bad To Love Things?

4. Actions Speak Louder Than Words

What you spend time, money, and energy on is generally what you are prioritizing in your life at the moment. By taking out the value of things and my emotional investment to them, I am more willing to share. I am more willing to be the person I want to be. If something happens to my jeans, it doesn’t phase me. It’s just a pair of jeans, I’ll get a new (new to me) pair.

So, is it bad to love things? I recently heard the saying, “Love people, use things. The opposite never works.” Loving things isn’t the worst thing in the world, but loving people is always so much better.

Your Turn!

  • How do you feel that loving things has impacted your life?
2 Comments
  1. Thank you so much for sharing the best posts they very nice and very useful to us. You made a good site it very help us. I am very impressed with your site and also with your posts they amazing

  2. Amanda, you are truly blessed! To my mind, you have dictated the terms of possessional ownership, to wit: you own your possessions, they do not own you. I admire your wealth.

    As an aside, I note several friends who simarly seemingly “lost it all” only to discover they never really owned their assets in the first place…their life’s accoutrements were just passing through. The common thread being that due to black swan events, they discovered how wealthy they really are. Now, at scarcely a moments notice, they are free to pursue their life. As one lady friend put it, “you have to enter the wine cellar of suffering to enjoy life’s choicest wines”. The human heart truly can’t appreciate love, without experiencing loss.

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