This is your brain, this is your brain when you have so much stuff to do that you literally can’t do it all. That where saying NO comes into play. Saying no is harder than you might thing, try it. Someone asks you to join in on some committee for a volunteer organization, your church needs a Sunday school teacher or you are asked any number of things which add strain to your life.
It’s not that you don’t want to do these things, it’s not that you are lazy, it is the simple fact that there are 24 hours in a day and at a point you are booked solid and you didn’t leave any time for you.
You need to factor in time for you, again it’s not selfish, its not greedy or lazy. It is taking time for you to take a break and unwind a bit. You aren’t any good to anyone if you can’t focus, you are always tired or you are running late to everything.
But how to determine what to say yes to and what to say no to?
Knowing where you are going can be an immensely freeing thing. While you should always leave room for some spontaneity and sometimes we just need to let life take us where it leads us. There are times where a plan is good. We all have dreams and it’s never a bad thing to do our best to get to them. The empowering thing about goals is that from them we can determine what actions we need to take to get to them. We can change our behavior now to get to the goal later. It doesn’t mean that we drop everything, it doesn’t mean these goals can’t change or be replaced, but we only have so much time on this earth and its good to make it count.
How do you figure out your very top level, most important things to you?
If you were at the end of your life looking back, what would you want to have achieved?
The answer is found in stewardship– the wise use of one’s time, energy, fiscal and other resources.
Are you wisely using the space in which you live? Which room or rooms do you live in the most? What happens to the others? Are you bothered by all the space within your dwelling that is least occupied?
“Tiny” is the efficient use of space. Admittedly, there is much less space to “expand” one’s lifeâ€”one’s possessions and one’s decorative sense are two examples. Where do we really live, thoughâ€”in our dwellings or in our hearts and relationship space?
But “tiny” also means less money expended to maintain a larger space that has become for many of us an idol. In 1963, my parents took on a 25-year mortgage on a new, two-story house with four bedrooms that cost $17,500. That same home today can sell for close to $300,000.
How scales of economy have changed! “Tiny” addresses the buying power of present dollars as much as it reflects the desire not to buy into the myth that bigger is better.
Bigger is not necessarily better. For most of us fascinated by tiny living, the exploration of all things tiny imparts hope.
Bigger is not necessarily better. Bigger can certainly be beautiful! And there is nothing inherently wrong in bigger. But bigger can be quite costly in both the short and long term and can bring with it many headaches.
It’s important to be compassionate: many of us could not but help buy into the belief that as we grew up that we, too, could purchase the type of homes our parents did– homes just as “spacious” and stately– even if we were raised in a row home or semi-detached dwelling.
But for chiefly economic reasons– many of which readers of “The Tiny Life” are aware– the purchase (and sustaining) of long-term mortgages has become less likely, less possible, and fraught with more risk.
For the sake of example, let’s suppose you and I can purchase such a home. My father worked for a corporation and was employed 33 consecutive years with that same employer before he retired. In general, such job security today, let alone with a single employer, is not the norm nor the reality for the vast majority of us.
Therefore, taking on a 20-35 year mortgage brings with it the worries of what will happen if one or both incomes become imperiled. What happens to our long-term investment if 23 years into our 25-year mortgage we lose either our jobs or our health? What if savings and the help of family &/or friends is not enough to “save” our home?
While I may have a Tiny Lifestyle blog, I have always been trying to really hone in on what the Tiny Lifestyle truly is. It is more than just owning a tiny house; it is a culmination of many things which leads us to a life which addresses human needs that we find are absent in our lives. It’s seeking more time, discovering ourselves and loved ones. It’s getting back in touch with nature; I would even go as far as saying there is a spiritual side to it as well.
I feel that the course we are going on as humans isn’t sustainable in both ecological and psychological terms. With so many humans on this earth we are feeling cramped, we lack room to roam, time to be and other needs of the human condition. What does this all have to do with Urbanism?
Like I said the way we live today isn’t sustainable in many ways, we must rethink, reengineer and adjust our behaviors. With 6.5+ billion people on this world urbanism will happen and we have to be smart about it.
So today I want to share these a few videos (if you only watch one, take time for the first it’s phenomenal) about building better. There are many people who are part of the Tiny House Movement that do so in an urban setting. For those of you whom are a bit more remote, while these things talk about cities and urban area, there are undoubtedly gems we can gleam. Whether these ideas are used to develop your community, your own tract of land or a small community of tiny houses, these ideas are invaluable for the backwoods or cities alike.